I have a love/hate relationship with the term ‘Pickup Artist.’

I’m definitely a fan of the ‘artist’ part, since the better I get with women, the more I see it as two parts science and one part artistry. Plus, by itself the word ‘pickup’ isn’t so bad. Out of all the slang terms out there for intentional flirting, it’s the most positive one – it’s certainly better to be seen as a guy who Picks Up Chicks rather than a dude that Hits On Chicks. You don’t want to be that guy.

You’d think the term could only get better when you put ‘Pickup’ and ‘Artist’ together – but that combo has become as poorly received as www.kidsexchange.net (where parents exchange their kids’ gently used clothing to other parents who need it, of course. What did YOU think it was?)

I think that the term Pickup Artist took a turn for the worse when it became PUA. Then that turn went off the road of worse and fell headfirst into the ditch of retarditude when people started calling it ‘pooah’ without batting an eye. Our little community then started getting media attention and PUA has become synonymous with creepy, needy guys dressing like a fucknozzle in feathers and trying desperately not to look creepy, needy, or desperate. Read the rest of this entry

I saw this in another forum and there were many responses to the post but not one of them addressed the real problem where this interaction went wrong. I thought I would step in and give my analysis.

My writing, blue italics; his, black.

im outside and i asked for a cig. a random ass girl gave it to me but i didnt feel like sarging because she wasnt that great looking…anyways i saw these 2 HB7.5′s with 2 guyz. i automatically felt compelled to open the guyz first. so i did so,

First off, it’s no big deal that you didn’t go after the girl that wasn’t great looking, but I wanted to make a quick note that you don’t have to “sarge” every girl you talk to. It’s perfectly ok to have regular conversations with people, especially when they do something nice for you, like give you a cigarette.

I find it strange that guys learn “game” and then forget ALL conventions of social politeness. You don’t have to “pick up” everyone you talk to. What’s wrong with just being normal and nice to people you meet (especially ones that have gone out of their way to be nice to you)!? This brings up a whole bunch of topics that I will not be addressing here but I think play a huge role in where you mess up the following interaction.

As far as approaching the guys first, your compulsion was probably correct. It is almost always better to approach the guys first unless you know for a fact that the girls don’t really know the guys and they aren’t terribly into the guys already.

Me: hey man nice tattoo is that rons(really good tattoo artist in elizabeth N) Read the rest of this entry