A reader sent in the following question and I thought I would take a brief moment to respond to it.
J.N. writes:
“I know you HAVE to touch to get sexual and sex, Especially a Same Night Lay. I know there is a process like first hands, shoulders then back and hips etc. But how do you get to her breasts, butt, inner thigh, kissing etc. So if you could explain this to me it would help me A LOT.”
My Response:
You’re over-thinking this.
YES…you do need to be escalating touch to seduce a woman. At the same time, this should be very intuitive.
Obviously places like elbows and shoulders are less invasive than breasts and inner thighs (and beyond); tummies and hair/face is in between those 2 on the comfort scale.
There are no exact steps to take and skipping some will have the effect of “unlocking” lesser invasive areas.
A few guidelines:
1- Obviously be aware of what is more and more invasive, from elbows to pussy/tits.
2- Don’t be overtly physical with higher level kino in public…reserve that for when you get in a secluded location where sex can actually occur because you want the sexual tension riding high when you get there. (“Accidental” contact to these areas, however, can also build sexual tension, e.g. you are making a point with your hand and it “accidentally” grazes are boob)
3- You can actually seduce with kino alone (which I did recently in Mexico with a girl who spoke no English and I speak no Spanish) but this is a very advanced topic and writing about it would not do the topic justice. I do however teach this in live training.
4- Try to bait her into escalating touch on you. This way she backwards rationalizes that she must really like you. (Again, this is a topic I reserve for live, infield training).
5- Always be willing to push the boundaries…trust me, they’re further than you think! Go out and try to escalate so much that you actually get slapped! Not only is it hard to get slapped but you’ll hopefully eventually be able to calibrate just where hers is and teeter just on the right side of it.
6- Note that some of these guidelines seem contradictory! Well, they are…There is as much of an art underlying seduction is there is a science and there are no dogmatic rules that ALWAYS apply.
Get Out There!
Nick
